What Happens When You Stop Seeking Validation

I am Dr. Hassan, Board-Certified Physiatrist and Independent Practice Owner. I help physiatrists start and grow their own independent practice so that they can achieve financial independence and live without limits.

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On your journey to building a profitable practice, you can develop five positive traits when you stop looking for and seeking validation. Ask yourself: How would you like to be a better person? If you spend time reading self-help articles, you probably think most change comes from doing something new. Today, you’re going to try something different. Rather than starting a whole new regimen or adopting a new behavior, you’re going to develop five positive traits all by stopping something you’ve been doing all your life. From the time we were small, we learned validation feels good. We seek it out, looking for understanding, acceptance, and inner peace. We don’t realize just how much this constant search for positive attention is holding us back.

Consider these five things which happen when you stop looking outside yourself for validation:

1. You see a more diverse world. Consider this: Everyone really doesn’t have to agree with each other after all. Instead of seeking validation by going along with what those around you are thinking or doing, maybe you can set a new trend by expressing who you are. Encourage those around you to likewise speak up and be their own people. Imagine how much nicer the world would be if we all could do this.

2. You’re more certain of things. When we rely on other people to tell us if we’re doing things right or not, we can get mixed messages. Someone likes our work, while someone else might not. Now imagine this: If validation doesn’t matter, you know the only opinion which truly matters, is yours. This certainly clears out the confusion.

3. You take better care of yourself. It’s hard to put forward your needs when you’re too busy seeing to the needs of others or rushing about trying to appease those around you. These are the traits that lead to overwork and exhaustion. When you quit seeking validation, you can step back when you need to and get proper rest. You’ll also find it easier to express when you need a break or to get something to eat.

4. You become a calmer person. There’s certainly a lot less stress if you don’t have to impress everyone around you all the time. With all the pressure off, you can relax into just being yourself. There is more peace in your life without that added pressure.

5. You can exude confidence. Finally, you don’t need anyone else to inform you of your worth when you drop validation. You already know how amazing you are. When you carry this knowledge with you, you can’t help but walk a little taller as your self-esteem is strengthened.

This is you at your best and the world knows it.

I am Dr. Hassan, Board-Certified Physiatrist and Independent Practice Owner. I help physiatrists start and grow their own independent practice so that they can achieve financial independence and live without limits. Please go to businessofrehab.com/contractnegotiations to pick up the free guide to help you negotiate the contract of your dreams.

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